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November 19, 2018 / admin

Interracial Skating Couple Vanessa James & Morgan Cipres

I’m just going to leave this right here.

I remember being glued to the ice skating performances during the Winter Olympics a when I was younger, but haven’t really been into the sport since Michelle Kwan left the stage. But this interracial ice skating couple—Vanessa James and Morgan Cipres, has sparked my attention. They have been skating together for 9 years and recently won the Skate Canada FP B.ESP competition.

I don’t know if they are a real life couple off the ice (my research says they aren’t) but they sure do dazzle together on it. His strength and power, her gracefulness and amazing body – their athleticism and smoothness. It all just gels with this sensual choreography and music.

I truly hope this performance and win will encourage more Black girls to explore different hobbies / sports because they will likely rock the heck out of it (just as Venus and Serena, Simone, and countless others have.)

Click play and prepare to be amazed at this Black girl magic and white guy studmuffin.

October 16, 2018 / admin

How to Let White Guys know you’re down with the swirl on Dating Apps

So, let’s talk dating apps – tinder, bumble, match, hinge…

These apps are all about people making quick judgments about whether they think you’d be a viable match and the determination is made by looking through your pictures.

Sure, some guys will buck the system and read your entire profile but most will form their opinion of you based on the visuals you provide first and foremost.

We all know some white men still haven’t gotten the memo that black girls are more and more open to exploring all the different crayons in the coloring box, and for that reason may not swipe on you for fear of being automatically ruled out and rejected.

Thusly, you might find yourself wondering how you can turn the tides in your favor?

For one, make sure you are swiping on white men (duh) so that if he does swipe on you, you’re more likely to be a match.

Second, picture of you with all black crews aren’t going to scream diversity. Upload photos of yourself and your diverse group of friends (all the better if there are other white men in the pictures).

Dig out the snaps of you doing “conventionally white activities”. You know what I’m talking about: comic con, golfing, snowboarding, skiing, hiking, shuffle boarding, and at a alternative rock/country/obscure indie rock concert. The more chances that he is into the same thing as you, the more likely he’ll think you aren’t the “typical black girl” who only like black guys and message you.

Travel photos – it means you are more open minded to the world and probably more open minded to dating outside of your skin tone.

Dress like a free thinking hipster. And if it applies, throw in at least one picture of you with your natural fro / hair swinging.

Went to a predominantly white liberal arts college? Don’t forget that photo with you rocking your school’s sweatshirt / swag.

Got any other ideas or photos that you believe have worked in getting your more attention from white men on the dating apps? Share them below.

October 9, 2018 / admin

10 Interactive Halloween Costume Ideas for the Single Ladies

It’s about that time – my second favorite holiday is quickly approaching. And in case you don’t know what I’m talking about, it’s Halloween. As a child growing up in a religious home I was taught not to celebrate halloween (and I’m sure a lot of black women can relate) but this is just one more thing that makes us others as everyone else is calmly going around celebrating the fun and not worshipping devils.

Anyway, that’s an article for another day. What we are going to talk about today is that If you are single and NOT loving it, don’t have any hangups about dressing up for halloween, and want to take advantage of the many opportunities to meet single guys that you probably wouldn’t meet elsewhere because they don’t frequent clubs, bars, or live in your neighborhood, then halloween is your time.

You’re definitely going to want to hit the parade, parties, and gatherings. But you can’t just show up with a t-shirt and jeans and claim you are dressed up as someone who thinks costumes are lame. The greatest way to show a man that you have personality and are fun is to get creative with your costume and go all out.

But, don’t just stop at a cute outfit that people will compliment you on. Dig a little deeper and get an interactive costume if you REALLY want to give a guy an easy way to approach you for a photo or to test out your cool costume.

Here are 10 interactive Halloween costume ideas that you are free to rip off!

(1) Wind up toy doll – bonus point if you manage to make the winding key twist and turnable

(2) The Bachelorette – Don your most glamorous gown and heels and have a bunch of long stemmed roses handy to give out. Since some people might not get it, you may also need a name tag that says The Bachelorette. Then feel free to hand them out to whichever guys catches your eyes for the night with the famous catchphrase “[insert guy’s costume character name], will you accept this rose?”

Read more…

October 8, 2018 / admin

Is anyone going to see The Oath? (Tiffany Haddish & Ike Barinholtz)

Just saw a trailer for the Oath and while it features an interracial couple , I’m not so excited about it. Besides the fact that it appears to feature Tiffany Haddish playing Tiffany Haddish, I also am trying to figure out if the entire movie will be one long dinner scene? Someone wrote that it was supposed to be the black female version of Get Out. (scooby doo noise)

The Oath is a 2018 American dark comedy film written and directed by Ike Barinholtz. It stars Ike BarinholtzTiffany HaddishJohn ChoCarrie BrownsteinBilly MagnussenMeredith Hagner, Jon Barinholtz, Nora Dunn and Chris Ellis, and follows a politically divided family at Thanksgiving after the U.S. government requires all citizens to sign a loyalty pledge.

September 19, 2018 / admin

Travel The World Cheap – Get Cultured & Expand your Dating Pool

By now you are aware of the importance of getting outside of your neighborhood, city, or state. Or at least you should be. There’s nothing like traveling to make you realize that you are desirable to men world wide and to give you depth and make you interesting to other people.

But one thing that always stands in people’s way of traveling is the cost. There is this idea that traveling needs to be super expensive – and I get it: Hotels aren’t cheap, airplane tickets aren’t cheap, attractions aren’t cheap.

Here are some tips from CiaraHoneyDip on the subject – and I add my own tips below:

My tips for traveling the world cheap include entering contests (especially the ones that require you to write some type of response to enter. A lot of people won’t bother and you will have a good chance of actually winning);

Finding a travel buddy so that you can split the costs of accommodation and getting around (splitting a taxi fare with other people surely helps. In some places you can still split fare by using an uber pool);

Going to places during their off peak season;

and Volunteering – whether you want to volunteer for a yoga retreat, or to help build houses somewhere, it’s a good way to do some good while seeing other parts of the world.

There are also so many blogs and books on the topic that if you really want to know what to do to travel cheap there’s no excuse. My favorite BW blogger is Oneika The Traveler.

What are your cheap travel tricks, tips, or bloggers? Share them below.

September 18, 2018 / admin

Mythbusters – White Men Have Small Penises… True or False?

20 Fingers echoes every woman’s thoughts with the song, Don’t Want No Short Dick Man

It always amazes me how some people (especially people that have never been with a white man *couch* black men and a lot of black male identified black women, talk about not wanting to date out because White Men have small penises.

Donald Trump may have Yeti Pubes and a dick like the mushroom character in Mario Kart (according to stormy Daniels), but that doesn’t mean all white men are lacking.

I remember the first time I was with my first boyfriend (A white American guy) and I was surprised to find that he was able to please me just fine. Now, I guard the kitty pretty well and haven’t slept with a ton of guys but out of the sampling of men I’ve been with I’ve never had any problems.

Now, this could be because according to studies, black women have the tightest kitty kats – but I digress.

According to white men have the biggest penises after Black men.

So, if you’re a black women on the fence about dating white men because you think that they won’t be able to satisfy you (And I get it – sex in a relationship is a BIG DEAL for most people and I’ve decided against being intimate with other races of men because I got a feel for what they were working with), just look at the research.

June 24, 2018 / admin

It’s Officially Summer – So About that Summer Body…

Did your body get the memo that it’s officially summer?

Look, we all know that men are visual creatures (as well as women). You can’t expect to compete with those girls who look great in and out of clothes, or snag guys that make you bite your fist, if your body is looking tow up from the floor up!

The good news is it’s not too late to get it together – and it doesn’t have to be a total drag.

I love dance and so I choose to get my workout through various dance classes. I have fun and it doesn’t feel like a workout. The thing is, dance classes are not cheap.

Luckily, there are workout DVD’s to the rescue.

Check out my girl’s new soca dance cardio fitness dvd available at and amazon

There are 14 songs with real soca music (not that instrumental crap that you can’t get into). Each song has fun and easy to follow choreography that is broken down before and during the routine (yay for good cueing).

Here’s a clip:

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