To continue the trend of our new year, happy feel-good news streak, I received this note from youtube bloggers Shelly and Michael:
My husband and I are an interracial Youtube vlogging couple. We record our weekly adventures and share them with our viewers. We were married last week and have an awesome wedding video on our channel. We would be delighted if you would check our wedding video and channel out. If you feel so inclined, please share with your readers! What we hope to accomplish with our channel is to inspire everyone with our relationship. Thank you very much for your time and hope to hear from you very soon! :-)
Shelly and Michael
Thanks for sharing your gorgeous wedding Shelly and Michael and best wishes for your freshly minted marriage!
Check out more videos on their youtube page at http://www.youtube.com/shellyandmichael1
Much thanks to those of you who have sent me notes regarding actress Tamera Mowry and husband, Adam Housley’s big announcement.
Tamera broke the news on her Facebook wall / instragram to her fans with the following statement:
“Adam and I are beyond thrilled to announce we are#ClearblueConfirmed! Love Clearblue‘s pregnancy test with Smart Countdown. It helped me get through the wait for my result by counting down with me. We can’t wait to meet our newest addition!! #spon“
Yeah, it sound conspicuously like a pregnancy test infomercial (and she’s probably getting paid to mention clear blue every third word, but I’m not mad at her.. after all, she’s got another mouth to feed on the way!)
Congrats Tamera and family!
The (130 page) book is finally here! As promised on our webinar a few weeks ago, everything you need to know on how to meet, attract and green light White men is available in the book, “How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know”. To all of those who pre-ordered the book at the discount price of $9.97, your book and bonuses are in your inbox (check it)
I still wanted to extend the early bird price for those of you new readers or readers of the blog who didn’t catch the webinar (I might be putting up a replay). SO you too can get the book for $9.97 when you CLICK HERE.
Read below for the introduction and if you have any questions about what’s in the book, feel free to ask me in the comments section below.
Back when I was in college, I answered a ‘student roommate wanted’ ad for an apartment in New York City. Little did I know, this was the day that would change my entire philosophy and outlook on men, and the course of my life forever.
The couple secretly wed in London back in July and these are duo’s first children together.
We all know Zoe has been very open to dating men outside of her ‘race’ before and she apparently has also been very vocal about wanting kids. As I mention in my book “How to be Irresistible to White Men” it’s super smart to put these thoughts and desires out into the atmosphere. It’s the power of attraction at work – you never know who is watching and listening and who will respond once you make your wishes known.
I also think it’s important to point out one of the many benefits of interracial marriages/families (not that many of you need any more convincing about the perks to dating out) is that any children you may have with someone from outside your nationality will benefit from getting to know multiple cultures, and in some instances languages.
Zoe had this to say about how she and Marco plan to give their littles ones an advantage early on in life as it pertains to the above in an interview with Cosmo for Latinos last year:
“[Our children] will speak the languages that we speak; my sisters and I grew up learning French and speaking English and Spanish, and because of that, we’re able to understand Italian andPortuguese, But I’m going to have to make a conscious effort to speak Spanish to my children, because I speak Spanglish.”
Anyway, congrats to Zoe and Marco on their new bundles of joy and let this be a lesson to other brown women everywhere – it can be done. When you step your game up (in your career, appearance, expectations) the world will rise to the occasion and give you exactly what you need/are looking for. Don’t give up!!!
Craigslist Los Angeles
I know this is probably a real shot in the dark, but here it goes anyway. I am looking for a cute black girl who took a picture with me on Morris Ave. a few doors down from The Burger King on Sunday July the 20th., the day of The Colombian Festival in Elizabeth, N.J. I was with a group of friends and we asked you if you could take a pic of us. Then I asked you if I could take a pic with you and you said yes, so we did. I was the thick(not fat) dude with the red shorts, Superman yellow, blue and red shirt(the Colombian colors) and a yellow wrap on my head, green eyes also had on very light shades, and tan skin. I was slightly drunk, so I did not even ask you for your number after we took the pic together. (kickin’ myself for that one) Just so you don’t get the wrong idea, I only drink socially, and I do work , and am working on a profession. Like I said, I know this is a shot in the dark, but thought I would try it anyway.
So, since I don’t watch television I’m going to need your help on this one! Because if it were up to me Toni and Todd Garrette from Girlfriends is still the first interracial couple that comes to my mind and lord only knows how long that show has been off the air! haha.
As such, I’m turning to you to nominate your favorite interracial couple (black woman/white man) on television for 2014. It matters not the category (drama, sitcom, reality television show, soaps *Do these still exist?*, etc… You name it! As long it’s on television, I want it!)
Those of you who love seeing pairs on television that resemble your relationship and want to support these shows, now you’ll have a running list to consult!
Leave the name of the actor/actress, their character’s name (if applicable), and the name of the television show in the comment box below. Once we have a pretty good list, I will put those names up for voting!
1. What constitutes a “couple”?
Married, dating, dated in the past, flirting, hooking up. However, if you just wish two characters would have a love storyline introduced or anything like that, it wouldn’t qualify for this competition, sorry!
2. What if the character(s) had only a guest spot or is not a recurring character?
That’s okay. The character(s) doesn’t have to be a main character. Guest spots, characters in a handful of episodes, etc. are totally cool.
3. What about webisodes?
Nooo… but if you have a webisode or know of a web show that features an interracial couple, let me know about it so that I can feature it here on the blog.
4. What happens after I nominate my favorite couple?
We will then make a separate post featuring all of your suggested nominees that will be open for voting.
5. Should I nominate my couple in the comments box if someone else already did?
Nope. Not necessary. Just make sure you come back and vote for that couple once we get all the nominees in.
I received the following note from a reader named Jay. Tell me if this sounds familiar :
Hi, I enjoyed having a look at your blog, I didn’t imagine such a blog would exist. In fact I did a bit more than enjoy it, it got me sexually excited, as a white male, to picture myself with a black female. But I still have mental barriers about it… When I see one, I always fear that she only likes black guys. Also, when I see this : https://blackwomenwhitemen.wordpress.com/2011/01/27/real-interracial-wedding-pictures/ I think that she looks confident, he doesn’t, and im pretty sure she will soon involve him in cuckoldry. What do you think? thank you :)
As the admin of this blog I’ve heard my fair share of suspicions expressed from Black women (and Black men) in regards to BW WM Interracial Dating. “Most White men just want to know what it’s like to be with a Black woman but won’t marry them or introduce them to his family,” “He’s got jungle fever or fetishizes Black women,” “He is only with Black women because White women don’t want him,” “He only likes Black women because he wants to be Black / acts black / talks black, etc,”
I have to admit though, I rarely hear White men express their suspicions about Black women who are interested in Interracial Dating; but apparently, as evidenced by the note above, some White men are thinking that pretty Black girls with White partners aren’t genuine or have ulterior motives.
To be clear, a cuckold is a husband whose wife has had sex with someone else. So this reader assumes this attractive Black Women in my Real Wedding Pictures Post will cheat on her White husband sooner than later. Interesting…
Is it because he doesn’t think her husband will be able to satisfy her? Or that she’ll get bored of him? Does he think White guys are too Beta to keep their pretty Black girlfriends and wives around? Is this what other White men fear and is it a mental roadblock for them to approach Black women they deem attractive?
MY ANSWER TO JAY:
You may or may not be aware that BWWM marriages are typically the longest lasting interracial couplings, and if all these Black women marrying White men were cheating on their husbands I’m sure their unions wouldn’t be lasting so long.
If the issue is that the Black Woman seems more confident or would be considered slightly more attractive than her White mate, I’ll have you know that is the case with most couples, their races notwithstanding. Most men simply won’t date a woman who he thinks is not at least on his level of attractiveness, and almost all of them will try to date one point higher or more.
I find this dynamic keeps the man appreciating his mate and gives her ample reason to stay instead of stray.
What say you? Have you heard White men give this particular reason for being suspicious of Black women who date interracially? Or have you heard any other common anxieties they have? Share it below in the comments section.