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April 23, 2011 / admin

Myth Buster #9 – Thin Lips

These myth’s about to BLOOW – O – O – O – O- o.o.o (Ke$ha reference)

In this series, we’ll be busting commonly held myths about Black women and White men. The first being that White men have thin lips and “kissing them will be strange” or “bad”.

Notwithstanding the size of each individual White man’s lips will vary, if you are a Black woman your lips will probably be fuller than his, but the question is, will kissing him be awkward or unpleasant because of this?

My personal experience has told me that kissing White men and kissing Black men are pretty much the same and will be good as long as you like the person, their lips are soft/unchapped, they are a good kisser (not sloppy) and their breath is on point.

In my opinion, there is no notable difference in how the white men’s lips I’ve kissed have felt, and if a man is a good kisser it probably won’t make a difference to you too. Actually I have the most vivid and fondest memory of sucking on a particular WM’s plump and juicy lips [shivers], despite his lips appearing to be thinner than the “average” Black man’s and mine.

If you have experience kissing white men, SPEAK ON IT! The same, not the same, better, worse, awkward, not … comment below.

FYI: Did you know that a man’s lips get plumper and juicier the more aroused he is? Well, now ya know!



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  1. mzdougla / Apr 23 2011 12:34 am

    I’m going to start off by saying “to each his own”.
    I had my first kiss at 18 with a 17 y/o white guy. It was at our place of employment, and I’ve had a crush on him for a while. The way he walked, talked, just his overall appearance made me feel like a school girl. I wanted to kiss him, but didn’t know what it would feel like (never kissed anyone). It wasn’t because he was white, I’ve always been attracted to white guys. I didn’t know how to kiss lol. He actually liked me, and one day he asked for a kiss and we kissed. It was the best, his lips was soft, warm and red…so cute! It was the perfect size lol. My lips are not too small, but a good size πŸ™‚
    We didn’t get a chance to date. We were young and allowed ignorant people to keep us apart. After that I went on a date with an African American guy, because my dad kept pressuring me. I thought he would be a good friend, and at the end of the date he kissed me and I didn’t like it at all. I’m not sure if it was because his lips was much larger than mine or because he was a sloppy kisser, but I do know that I knew I only prefered smaller lips on a guy. I personally don’t like full lips on a guy…that’s my two cents πŸ™‚

    • admin / Apr 23 2011 1:29 am

      I’d have to agree with you on not liking fuller lips on a guy. The white guy, who to this day I can remember his lips as if I just sucked on them 30 mins ago, was by far the best kissing partner I’ve had to date. Oh yeah, and his lips would get red toO after a hot makeout session! I thought that was cute too.

      • nicole / Nov 23 2015 11:34 am

        how long you suck the lips

    • NeverBeenKissed / Jun 8 2013 10:53 pm

      Hi mzdougla! I read your comment and found it very interesting and helpful in my case considering that I have never been kissed. Also, your story is kind of similar to mine; the guy I like is in an out-of-school extracurricular club with me and I find his crisp, clean, “prep” style so attractive (not to mention his kindness and generosity, but I do not want to begin I too am attracted to white guys and well, all guys to be exact. Your comment actually excited me a bit and encouraged me to anticipate a possible future!

  2. WingedBeast / Apr 23 2011 9:36 am

    It’s important to keep up rigorous testing. Never let up, even though it seems like the evidence is all in. In that spirit, I’d like to present myself to any single ladies for repeated experiments. πŸ™‚

    • admin / Apr 23 2011 2:48 pm


    • Jess / Apr 23 2011 3:26 pm


    • mzdougla / Apr 28 2011 7:32 pm

      Lol that made me giggle πŸ™‚

    • CARLY / May 18 2011 4:45 am

      **LAMO** too cute. *kisses*

  3. ciaobella / Apr 23 2011 2:20 pm

    i prefer kissing wm simply b/c i don’t like fuller lips on the guy either. and after making out, they look so hot when their lips are red and kind of swollen after all that action. IMO theirs are softer and less chapped/dry than most bm. Also, i find looks can be deceiving; even if lips appear thin, they don’t feel that way when you’re actually kissing them.

    • rawr / Apr 23 2011 7:50 pm

      “I prefer kissing wm simply b/c i don’t like fuller lips on the guy either”


      • admin / Apr 23 2011 8:01 pm

        I’m pretty sure that was the teeth, but nice try?

  4. Jess / Apr 23 2011 3:23 pm

    “If you are a Black woman your lips will probably be fuller than his..”

    Women naturally have plumper lips than the males of their group.

    • Mark / Apr 23 2011 5:15 pm

      That’s one of the things I love most about BW. Their lips are irresistable, especially when they wear that shiny stuff. I’ve kissed many thin lipped WW and there’s no comparison. They say inflammation of the lips is a sign of sexual arousal which instantly attracts men so I guess that’s part of it too.

  5. ArbnGrl / Apr 23 2011 9:02 pm

    Well for me, I didn’t feel a difference although my lips were fuller than his. All I know is that he was a good kisser!

    • nicole / Nov 23 2015 11:35 am

      I like good kisser

  6. Sweetlady / Apr 24 2011 12:10 am

    Doesn’t really make a difference long as he is a good kisser.

  7. Jess / Apr 30 2011 4:29 pm

    I guess I missed myth busters 1-8?

    • admin / Apr 30 2011 10:21 pm

      Lol. I was just feeling cheeky πŸ™‚
      I think it’s hilarious you’re the only one who mentioned it

  8. CARLY / May 18 2011 4:42 am

    I have kissed both black and white men…very deep passionate kissing and I must say that white men; OH GAWD LAWD are MAGNIFICENT KISSERS! While I have came across a few black men that are wonderful at kissing; I have came across a few of them that don’t like to kiss, while I have NEVER; EVER came across a white man that didn’t like kissing and not be good at it.

    Can’t explain it, but white men are very passionate and are the bomb at making out, foreplay and…lemme stop now…*biting my lip*.

    • admin / May 18 2011 12:36 pm

      I’d have to agree with you – in my experience they love kissing and are into foreplay (which is so key!)

    • mzdougla / Jun 26 2011 10:05 pm

      I sooo agree with your last statement!! I’m not sure what it is, but they love to kiss, and don’t talk about the foreplay/PDA (not going to complain there) lol. It sort of reminds me of a friend (white guy) I met in college. I never got his last name, because I left school. He was sooo good to me, and the kiss he gave me on my forehead the last time I saw him, was so soft. Boy! I miss him. I’ve been searching for him for about two years with no luck.

      • admin / Jun 26 2011 10:20 pm

        OMG, I can so relate! Don’t you just hate it when a guy you’re into is invisible online (No facebook, twitter, linked in, etc.) In this day and age it seems like everyone it at least on facebook. There’s one guy I was searching for to no avail . I guess he takes his whole online reputation thing VERY seriously.

  9. mzdougla / Jun 26 2011 10:57 pm

    Oh lord yes!! I can’t remember his last name to save my life LOL. The same with a Japanese guy I met at a hospital I worked for. He was sweet and he was a oral surgeon…he fixed my tooth for free (nothing happened) πŸ˜€ He would bring back items for me from his trips to Japan and insisted he accompany me to Japan (would like to visit). I moved to a different city and my ex deleted his #…so out of luck there. I found most of the people who disliked me in school on FB but I can never find the guys that I had liked. Strange!

  10. KissyFace / Nov 19 2011 12:49 am

    I have kissed a lot of black and white guys.
    I prefer kissing black guys for their full lips, but I do not prefer them as dating
    *sigh* if it’s not one thing, it’s another..

    • mzdougla / Nov 26 2011 12:19 am

      So how do you work that out? Wouldn’t it be a bit difficult dating white men if you prefer kissing black men? o_O

      • df / Dec 8 2011 9:43 pm

        ??? just because she says she prefers kissing black men doesn’t mean she hates or doesn’t like kissing white men….

      • mzdougla / Dec 10 2011 3:08 am

        You did not see “hate” or “dislike” anywhere in my comment…did you? I find the comment strange that is all. If a black woman told me, she dates white men, but prefers kissing black men, I would shoot her a puzzling look. I’m not sure what America’s definition of “prefer” means, but to me it is “have a preference for”, “like better”.,etc.
        If a white guy told me he has dated black/white women, but prefers kissing white women better, because of “……..”, then there would be no reason for me to continue talking to him. To me, kissing deals with some sort of connection. You’re not just going to peck them on the lips. He has basically told me, that I’m not as good as white women.

  11. sarah / Jan 1 2012 3:06 am

    Well i am white and i have kissed white and black men and i have had better experiences with the black men. The black guys i have dated had fuller lips and i loved it. The white men i have kissed always turn their heads sideways instead of just kissing you LOL! The black men just kiss you without all the bobbing and weaving. But i do think that it just depends on the person. Just sharing my input. (:

    • mzdougla / Jan 3 2012 7:01 pm

      Well, that’s strange LOL…I’m pretty sure you weren’t the target audience. I thought this article was about myths between “black women and white men”. Majority of us on this blog, date and kiss white men. You probably will take this offensive, but what interested you (caucasian woman) in a bw/wm blog? Its just strange, because on another bw/wm IR blog I read; black men stop by and are constantly commenting and making the post about them, when its about bw/non-black men relationship advice or social issues pertaining to that particular coupling. I don’t think I would feel comfortable going on a ww/bm blog, saying wm are much better at _____, but if you (caucasian woman) are into bm and like going on blogs intended for bw who date/marry interracially, then knock yourself out :/

  12. Let's be Realistic / Jan 13 2012 4:31 pm

    no offense but “sarah” is likely a troll. the psychology of some black men is very strange and tends to manifest itself online and irl in some pretty weird ways. i visited a bodybuilding forum that i stalk for nutrition/exercise info (I’m a health NUT) and these black guys who are members of the forum start threads about black girls that are extremely fake and stereotypical. Just today i saw a thread where a poster put up photos of a young black girl claiming that this girl would have sex with him if he bought her an iphone…..??? and the saddest part is that none of the other posters picked up on the fact or called the OP out for trolling.

    I will defend a good guy any day of the week no matter his race but from my experience it seems like a large number of black guys have a sick obsession/love/hate issue with black women. I really don’t get it–it’s not the ones who simply are attracted to other races and are fine with it, its the ones who go on and on talking trash to other races about a group of women of their own race. When I witness it in public it is so sad to watch because its as if they truly believe that bashing their “own” women somehow sets them apart or above when in reality it just makes them look desperate for white acceptance, gullible and incapable of critical thinking .I know the stereotype is that black women are the angry ones but IRL i have never witnessed a black female publicly bash black men EVER if anything they are always giving them undeserved accolades and attention…i wish I knew why black men are so angry at black women???? especially when these are the ones that don’t even date black women? Perhaps I’m just venting so much today but it is a very PREVALENT phenomenon and it is kind of disturbing and …..did i mention saddening? Its sad that a lot black men probably have more hate against black people than KKK members. I don’t think black women are perfect innocent angels either but I just have not witnessed the same phenomena with black women.

  13. Let's be Realistic / Jan 13 2012 4:38 pm

    oh as far as kissing I’ve only kissed one black guy so I don’t have a good sample to compare but i will say that i did not like it.

    full lips on a guy while kissing just feels weird, and he wasn’t gentle at all, it was like my face was being smashed. i also agree with the poster who said that while some white guys lips may look on the thinner side, they feel just right while kissing, but i also tend to go for the guys with fuller lips, but not lips that are covering my whole face like a black guys (no racist)

    i think the woman should have the fuller lips and the man should be the one enjoying them πŸ™‚ so i’d have to go with the white guys (although I don’t think i’ve kissed enough black guys to rightfully judge)

    also maybe it was just my personal experience but it seems like white guys put more into foreplay/making out….their more sensual and passionate…black guys seem more self centered when it comes to intimacy, they just want to “get theirs” whereas white guys understand the value of pleasing the woman FIRST then receiving their reward πŸ™‚ if ya know what I mean πŸ™‚

    this isn’t to insult black guys at all–some girls may love fuller lips on a guy, i think its weird.

  14. Strawberry / Aug 29 2012 3:54 am

    After googling some stuff I have stumbled on this block… I am a white girl and for a white girl I have pretty full lips. Yesterday I was on a date with a white guy (I’ve never kissed a black guy). We kissed. Honestly, during all the date I haven’t noticed the shape of his lips or the fullness/thickness… Probably because I was sooo convinced that we are not gonna kiss. But when the moment came, it felt extremely weird because it was a first time I was kissing a guy with thin lips! I must say that at first I was thinking that our lip sizes do not match and so on because kissing did not appear so successful… Once even my friend mentioned sth like that because she was kissing a guy with thinner lips… But while we were kissing (omg, we were kissing for such a looong time that it seemed that the time has stopped) we got used to each others lips and kissing turned out sooooo goood! Maybe he was just a good kisser… But for my opinion, it doesn’t really depend on the lip size, it’s more about guys ability to kiss πŸ˜‰ Ok, one more thing to add. If he had slightly fuller lips, the kissing would have been even better!!! πŸ˜€

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  16. TJ / May 26 2015 3:38 pm

    i just made out with one of my coworkers that ive been attracted to for awhile and found out that hes liked me for awhile now too at this party and surprisingly he wasnt a bad kisser at all. hes white and im black and he has thin lips and ive never kissed anyone with thin lips before although i have dated white guys before but they have always had nice full lips. kissing him was good but might of been better if he didn’t have a mustache and beard…i like a clean shaved face but yeah i think it just depends on how you feel about the person because i did feel like i had to adjust my kissing so that i wouldn’t feel like im swallowing his face but it was sweet and his lips were soft and cute and hes gorgeous so it wasn’t bad at all πŸ™‚


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