HOT White Men Only Date Thin/Skinny Black Women?
READER SUBMITTED QUESTION:
Sent by Aysia
I’ve always wondered, if I want to date a white guy will I have to be skinny/thin to do so? I’ve seen so many beautiful interracial couples with extremely handsome white men but one thing that I always notice, the woman is always thin
Ok, I know that title is a bit on the controversial side, but it is relevant to this week’s reader submitted question from Alyssa. To answer your question, NO, you absolutely do not have to be skinny/thin to date a White guy. Look at all the pictures of interracial couples around the internet and you’ll see heavier Black women with White Men in abundance.
Now, you may also notice those White Men may be a little overweight themselves, average or not super model status (I touched on this before about like attracting like; and why looking solely for a Hot man may not be the way to go in your vetting process). That being said, being attractive to one’s mate is of great importance if you want the relationship to last.
But the second part of your question mentioned noticing extremely handsome White men with only THIN black women. You’re wondering then, if the fact that those Black women were able to capture the attention and heart of their extremely handsome White man is because of being, amongst other things, primarily THIN.
So then, is your question really ‘if I want to date an extremely handsome White man will I have to be thin/slim to do so?’
Now, this a question I can really sink my teeth into! Get ready, because here’s MY HONEST and VERY STRONG OPINION
MORE THAN LIKELY, YES!
Look, if you want to date extremely handsome White men, you had probably better be pretty darn gorgeous yourself. We all have heard about beauty being in the eye of the beholder, but there’s much to be said that many of us beholders would view a slim/in shape version of a woman as more beautiful than a large/overweight version of that same woman. Don’t agree? You’re an anomaly. Don’t like it? Tough, you’ll have to face reality that most people feel this way in our time period, whatever the reason -persistent media images and the like.
Fat has a tendency to distort many a beautiful feature and I certainly enjoy looking at bodies that are in shape than out of shape… don’t you? I’m going to assume yes since you’re wondering about those hot white men as opposed to those overweight/fat white men.
To give you some perspective, an extremely handsome White Man, who would have a LOT of choices in the dating department is:
1. Probably going to want the best that he can get (not only in terms of attractiveness but in personality, smarts and femininity and all that other good stuff) because HE CAN. And guess what? He’s going to have to be attracted to your looks first before deciding to invest time in getting to know your sparkling personality, wit and all your other great qualities.
2. Probably going to want someone who is like him in terms of lifestyle, health, fitness. If he has a six pack what are the chances he wants to feel a protruding belly when you’re getting busy between the sheets. And if you’re eating fast food and donuts it’s likely he won’t think you’re a good fit (you might mess up his attempt at healthy living).
3. Probably not checking for heavier WHITE or OTHER women either… so it really has nothing to do with you being Black. Change your hue and that extremely handsome white man probably wouldn’t be glancing your way while walking down the street either.
*Disclaimer: There is an exception to every rule, so in some cases you may find some extremely hot White men who like heavier women… but let’s be real with ourselves: this is not the norm and if you’re hoping to find this guy you are needlessly winnowing down your prospects
So, Obviously I am an extreme advocate of Black women getting their stuff together and losing the weight. Besides all the other health benefits of slimming down, an added bonus is vamping up your love life and having a lot more attractive men checking for you! Despite what many Black women may think… sadly, hair, makeup, clothes and nails alone won’t do it to get the hot men you are pining after to notice you and ask you out.
Hope this answers your question or at least gives you something to think about, Aysia.
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