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April 12, 2012 / admin

White Guys who Love Black Women Abound!

Where are all the white guys who like or would date a black woman? Umm… literally, everywhere!

Last week I went on 3 really fun dates with 3 different WM. So far, this week I had playful banter/flirtations with 4 different guys – and I’m not talking about guys from dating sites.. I’ve done that too but they don’t really count in my book. If you want to know how I’ll tell you… it’s all in having an abundance mentality, getting out more and being playful/flirty. Seriously, just having fun in the dating process as well as the process of meeting new people makes a world of difference.

The problem when you tell yourself that there are not a lot of white guys who like black women is you actually internalize and believe that nonsense. Therefore, you probably don’t try when you see a guy who fancies you because you’re already convinced he probably won’t be into you. That is not to say you should DO all sorts of things and TRY really hard – it just means you probably won’t smile at him or attempt to be flirtatious, or even dress up in an attempt to be more attractive when going out – remember our behavior is a large way in which we attract people to us. It doesn’t actually matter where you’re going either! I met these guys in the most random places and just from smiling and/or asking for a favor – e.g. asking if I could get a candy or asking for directions. This was actually the case that lead to two of those dates. I sowed the seeds in these guys brains by not only asking but doing it in a way that said I’m asking YOU for a reason! They caught on and ran with it and most men will too!

I’ve realized all I really need to do is be at my best (attire, makeup, etc.) which usually leads to me feeling really confident and walking with an extra pep in my step. Next, I survey where I am. This consists of me just noticing who is noticing me or who I’d like to notice me. Then comes the eye contact and open body language (smiles, looking up at them from my eyelashes, tucking a lock of hair behind my ear or touching my neck. If a man finds you even somewhat attractive and is available, he will be looking for subtle cues that you are interested in him as well. If he didn’t notice you right away and you give those cues and then he decides he is attracted to you, he’ll still think he’s the one in control and immediately start plotting how he can strike up a conversation with you!

My challenge to you is to talk to 5 white guys this weekend. Find some specific detail to comment or tease him on, ask for a favor, make a remark about your surroundings, whatever! Don’t build up any expectations that these conversations will lead to your next boyfriend or even a date – you’re simply going to be more sociable. You’ll see for yourself how many guys will respond to you (remember to be at your best when you do this as you’ll exude the confidence to execute this task much more effectively) and have fun!

Soon you’ll see with your own eyes that everywhere you go there’s a hot white guy who will be more than open to chatting you up and engaging in playful/flirty banter with you. The more you do this, the more your mentality will change. It would then be insane for you to tell yourself and truly believe there aren’t a lot of white guys who would be interested in you because the proof will be before your very eyes – undeniable! Men love ALL WOMEN who excite them, can make them feel at ease, comfortable and whom they can have fun with.

May the force be with you!!! πŸ˜‰



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  1. df / Apr 13 2012 4:19 pm

    wow, reading this post has made me realize how LAZY i am when it comes to meeting guys….i was reading this and thinking “this is soo much work waaaaah” Part of it is that i’m naturally reserved and shy but the other half is that I’ve just gotten WAY too comfortable with it and I’m not even trying anymore….I will start working on taking care of myself. I’m fairly fit but i’m very sleep deprived and stressed so it affects my looks…that’s the bottom line. Then as that gets better, I’ll move on to trying the tips you presented. Thanks!!! Great post sis πŸ™‚

    • admin / Apr 15 2012 11:20 am

      Hey Df, taking care of yourself is paramount, not only because you feel way better about yourself but because people want to be around other people who care about themselves – at least the type of people you want to attract (like typically attracts like).

      I am also pretty sleep deprived (the one downside of having an active dating life! ha) but as long as you get your beauty rest 5x out of the week you should be good. Pinpoint what is preventing you from getting sleep and address the problem – promise to listen to your body and be good to yourself, so when your eyes start to feel sleepy don’t fight the urge to just let them close

      Stress can really affect your looks and sleep – I know this from experience. Try soaking your feet in warm water before bed, incorporating yoga into your workout routine, read articles on how to let things you can’t control go or forgive yourself or stop procrastinating – whatever it is that is stressing you out formulate a plan of attack against it …

      Other stress relievers: go window shopping or since the weather is warming up grab a blanket and head over to a park. I love the sound of children playing and find it relaxes me so maybe you can go on a saturday when lots of families are around. Plan a relaxing vacation someplace warm to clear your head or if you can’t afford this, treat yourself to a massage and a mani/pedi once a week (Every city has a Chinatown where you can usually find reasonably priced massages).

      Learn to pamper and spoil yourself and this will make you put things in perspective – such as, nobody comes before you and you won’t give anyone or anything the power to steal your joy – you’re worth more than that!

      Hope this helps!

  2. Cyp / Apr 24 2012 11:14 pm

    Great post! Very insightful and helpful. Thank you.

  3. Nyota Vargas / Apr 25 2012 10:56 pm

    This is a good post! Everything you said is doable and pretty easy. If you approach things from this prespective it makes meeting men fun and no pressure. I would love to meet someone, I know for sure that wm are looking to meet bw.I get loads of eye contact, I make eye contact and have been smiling more but my issue is that I’m not working, victim of the economic downturn, and there are plenty of pickings out there. Plenty of working women vs me. Any suggestions?

    • admin / Apr 25 2012 11:53 pm

      Get a passion (some hobby or two that you are excited about), volunteer every week or every other week (will help you keep busy and feel great about yourself), take a class or go back to school to get a skill that will make you more marketable in the workforce or start a side business. Ask yourself what your dreams were when you were little. What did you want to do, what did people say you were good at? If necessary, get thee to the bookstore and do some heavy reading on business and marketing for inspiration.

      Notice the trend here? Work on improving yourself and balancing out the other areas of your life while you are looking for a job. This will make you more interesting and appealing and confident in yourself and what you have to offer. A lot of people that are working are not about anything and are some of the most boring people (they go to work, then go home, maybe stop at a bar and grab a drink! Bo-ring!). Just because they aren’t out of work doesn’t mean that they trump you in your dating market value. Do you think a guy would rather a woman who had a good job but who was also bitchy, selfish, never had time for him, boring…. or a woman who was looking for her next job but about something (had interests/hobbies/passions), kind, excited about life, interesting, nurturing, kept herself well (in shape/fit/made him want to be seen with her) and made him feel good about himself?

      You can be exciting and have a lot to offer without a J-O-B … besides most men aren’t looking for a woman to be making six figures – all most of them care about is that you are not just trying to make them your sugar daddy and that you have your own goals/dreams/aspirations. Work on getting the life a man would want to be a part of. Pretty simple, right?

      • nicko7 / Jan 6 2013 9:10 pm

        way to go well written well said

  4. Sandy / Jul 8 2012 11:43 pm

    Wow, I am so encouraged. I really feel that I have wasted money on dating sites where I have had no luck meeting anyone for even a date. I really like the recommendations on how to communicate interest while going about daily activities.

  5. emilysmusings / Jul 10 2012 9:26 am

    Excellent article. And I know for a fact that these things work. I\’ve noticed white guys do these things (striking up a conversation about something funny, or the surrounding circumstances, or asking for directions, etc) Once upon a time, I thought they were just being conversational. One day someone nudged me after I\’d missed an opportunity and said, Wow, he was really flirting with you! I never recognized it for what it was. Before that, I only recognized overt, outright male flirtation as interest. I am way more alert now. Again, excellent information. Thanks.

    • *enchante* / Oct 12 2012 3:09 pm

      IF A MAN ASKS FOR DIRECTIONS,, he IS trying to strike up a conversation or date with you–LOL. guys are notorious for not doing that and would rather get lost–LOL

  6. David / Aug 21 2012 3:13 pm


    • Sandra Thompson / Aug 23 2012 12:47 am

      Hi David tell me about yourself or lets chat on

  7. assmandan / Sep 11 2012 3:12 pm

    Black girls are so freaking hot I love them all

  8. Girl!! Thank you!
    This post is, I think, one of the better threads that I’ve ever seen on HOME.
    Its positive and proactive, I love that! Too many folks bring negativity to Black women with Other Brothers, as though swirling was rocket science. Men are men! And a BW with confidence and a pep in her step? Smiling?! FIRE!!

    Sharing this on the page. This topic is so good. Thank you once again!

  9. psxyz / Oct 30 2012 10:29 pm

    Black girls, black girls, black girls, I don’t know why exactly but i’m super attracted too black girls.
    This post hits the nail on the head.

    • Dean / Jul 12 2013 12:23 am

      And me as well, Love the strong sexy black ladies

  10. Blacksheeplost / Nov 1 2012 3:45 am

    Everything above is true and i know from experience. my only problem is the follow through with some and the fact the most of the guys that do try are usually younger, mostly 21 and I’m 26 now

    • Dean / Mar 17 2013 3:02 am

      I’m an older white man and I met my Beautiful Black Queen 3 years ago.

  11. dejamonae lee / Dec 5 2012 3:02 am

    Im to dating out side of my race look me up on face book and leave me a message dejamonae lee

  12. chloe / Dec 15 2012 6:16 am

    Well I sure wish it was like that here in Hawaii,everyone here seems to be asian lovers

    • jeff / Dec 29 2012 4:13 pm

      hey. one of my strategies is, if i see a bw at a social job, i make sure to think of something to ask her, retail or supermarket, always a good way to break ice. better yet, hitting up any bw in shopping situations is great, woman usually are in good moods when at the stores. i think the skin compliments are the most overt signal we wm could say, kind of a billboard moment, dont let that pass you. but 90% when i ask a bw any question it is too break ice. but now i’ve met a stunner so all positive energy towards her. i will say that there is an amazing bond, like nothing else, for a white guy and black woman when that chemistry boils. good luck

    • Paul / Mar 24 2013 1:01 am

      That’s not 100% true…lol…take me for example! πŸ™‚

  13. mamello / Jan 14 2013 3:43 pm

    hey,since in my teen years ive only dated black guys bt nw im more attracted to white guys,id reali lyk 2 socialize wit em bt i dnt kno hw 2 approach em..

    • Dean / Mar 17 2013 2:58 am

      Hey sweetie,
      Just look at us out of the corner of your eyes and smiles.
      Also if you see a white man you like say hi and smile.
      It’s a numbers games.

      • renay jones / Jan 5 2014 9:14 pm

        easy for u to say, would love to date someone out of my race

  14. Kevin / Jan 16 2013 2:13 pm

    You are sooo right. many successful white men prefer the company of black women. Not only socially but also as a life mate. Beautiful dark angels who tend to be way more polite, approachable , natural and femine.

    • Aire Esther / Apr 4 2013 3:50 am

      Yeah right

      • Dean / Apr 20 2013 1:21 am

        Yep you are so right

  15. Chipo / Feb 12 2013 2:17 pm

    Very interesting, wud love to date a white guy. Unfortunately they are very few from where I come from. If anyone has places in Zimbabawe or good websites I can visit do let m know

  16. Anastacia Francis / Feb 28 2013 9:06 am

    Lol.. add me on facebook I have been looking for a white man for ages :). Only something real though

    • Dean / Mar 17 2013 3:07 am

      You will find you white guy just like I found my Black Queen.
      I met my sweetie off of a Interacial Dating dating site.
      Take care

    • Paul / Mar 24 2013 1:00 am

      You are simply gorgeous…too bad that you’re so, so far away…:)

  17. caramelgoddess / Mar 10 2013 4:30 pm

    I love this post very much. Thank you for the encouragement.
    I totally agree with you when you say, “Men love ALL WOMEN who
    excite them, can make them feel at ease,
    comfortable and whom they can have fun

  18. Dean / Mar 16 2013 2:06 am

    I’m a white man in NC and I’m in love with a beautiful black Queen.

  19. Paul / Mar 24 2013 12:59 am

    The hardest part about meeting a beautiful bw in Hawaii, is that there are so few of them! Mostly military, they tend to hide out on the bases…makes it hard to find them! lol….But I do so love them…:)

  20. Aire Esther / Apr 4 2013 3:46 am

    Wow!Nice posts guys.As a black Nigerian young girl,I love whites generally and love to associate with them but I wonder why I can’t get a white guy as a friend,just a friend ’cause I’m not desperate for a date but just a friend(best friend if possible) because I’v had blacks as friends and just few indians as friends too,I’l like to have a white as my best friend,not indian this time and I don’t anyone between the ages of 19 and 21. . .around my age,that we can share views and someone I can learn a lot about whites from.Requests are very welcome please. . .add me with “Airebanmen Esther” on facebook.Thanks a lot!

    • Darren / May 13 2013 4:51 pm

      I don’t have a Facebook account, but I’ll be happy to be your friend. You can email me if you want. Just ask for my email address.

  21. Aire Esther / Apr 4 2013 3:48 am

    I think whites guys are okay!

    • Dean / Apr 20 2013 1:17 am

      Thank you so much πŸ™‚
      And I just love my Black ladies.
      My Beautiful Black lady is my Queen.

  22. nicole ellis / May 5 2013 1:27 am

    Would love to get hooked up on this site.

    • nicole ellis / May 5 2013 1:29 am

      Yes would really like to join

  23. paulcheezan / May 7 2013 4:23 am

    I have always been attricted to balck women since I was about a child me first expericen was with a black girl.

  24. shane / May 12 2013 8:38 am

    I am 34 years old white man never been with a black women but i would like to give it a go im realy turned on by black women i guess ive always been told once u go black theres no going back i got to know

  25. joan ngumi / May 15 2013 10:02 am

    i would love to date a white man

    • Darren / May 19 2013 10:28 pm

      It’s not that hard, just do the same thing you would do if you were intrested in a black guy.

      • joan ngumi / May 21 2013 9:35 am

        wow.,.nice idea

    • george / Jun 18 2013 7:30 pm

      I want to date a black women

    • Dean / Jun 26 2013 2:18 am

      Smile and give us a look. There are some good dating site out there as well.

    • Dean / Nov 1 2013 11:20 pm

      Just give us a smile or join a dating site

    • 18andLegal / Dec 23 2013 4:23 pm

      Me too.

  26. Mark / Jul 9 2013 4:56 pm

    I love the build and walk of a black woman. I’m an ass man and black girls have the best IMO. Is that sterotyping? If it is, I”m guilty. I love their full lips and skin tone. I realize that physicality is just the first step but it’s what draws me in. Plus I like the challenge of the two of us not giving a fuck what others think of us. I find it incredibly sexy and a massive turn-on. I love black girls!

    • george / Jul 11 2013 3:35 am

      any black women can mail me at for friendship I like black women

    • Dean / Nov 1 2013 11:25 pm

      Well my sweetie is a black lady but she has a white butt. That’s ok because I love the lady not the ass.
      After years of being together there is no challenge about what others think because I don’t see my queen as a black lady but my true love. You will forget that she is black after a few years.

  27. Demi / Oct 24 2013 2:27 pm

    That’s cute Shane..

  28. marty windham 843 687 8624 / Dec 18 2013 2:09 am

    im from south carolina im indian n wite iv always date black women n 4 u young lady i luv a women wid curves thick n 4 the beautiful young lady whos picta at da top of this ur gouurgus u can see a picta of me on afroromance my name there is marty3581 i wish i could find a beautiful black woman my numba is 843 687 8624 call me anytime

    • Kaddy / Dec 19 2013 1:39 pm

      We could get to talk, i love white men

  29. 18andLegal / Dec 23 2013 4:30 pm

    I wonder where all the White men who like Black women are at because I want a White boyfriend. I find them attractive, attentive and much more respectful than Black men.

    • white / Dec 24 2013 5:35 am

      I met my girl friend off of interracial dating site.
      We have been dating for 3 years now and I just gave her a ring.

  30. tiannaskyy14 / Jan 11 2014 6:28 pm

    i love this post :). I want a white guy so bad. but jus not sure how to approach one. Its now to the point where when I see a good looking one I immediately get nervous and begin to admire him…..from afar 😦 which shouldn’t be that way becuz im very attractive….jus idk they make me nervous lol its like wanting something u feel u cant have 😦

    • dean / Jan 14 2014 2:47 am

      Oh yes you can sweetie. I met my Queen off of a dating site. But I live in NC and it’s hard to meet black ladies in person here in the South. If you want to meet a white man you might have to show him that you have an interest. Because most white men are not as aggression as black men we need a sign. I was raise that it was rude and a disrespectful behavior to be so forceful to a ladies, so I look for a sign like a smile or that third look out of the corner of her eye. My girl friend has a white man and you can have one as well. She my one and only and I Love her so much πŸ™‚

    • DanB / Jan 14 2014 8:08 pm

      I agree v much with Dean. Most white guys are not aggressive in the dating world, and do very much try to be proper and respectful. Compliments are hard to express sometimes…just because we don’t say you are gorgeous, doesn’t mean we don’t think it…and we fear the repercussion of appearing to look at black women only as sex objects. We need a sign, like Dean said. A longer look and a smile go a long way…for all we know, you have no interest in white men. Do have faith, young lady, that there are good..and good looking white men out there who are attracted very much to women of color. I met my lovely chocolate lady at work…we struck up a friendship…and when I asked her if she’d ever date a white guy, she told me she did before and he was the best boyfriend ever. Long story short, when I eventually asked her if she’d ever consider dating ME, she was completely floored…she had no idea I actually was attracted to her. Moral, if a guy takes the time to get to know you and you enjoy each others company…he may be attracted to you and just doesn’t know how to approach you. I’m confident you will find your vanilla man.

      • dean / Jan 16 2014 1:45 am

        It’s also hard for white men to approach a black lady, because we don’t know how she will take it.
        And black ladies should know that some white men are just looking to have sex with a black lady, so be careful. But men of all races will just date a lady for sex anyway. How to know what the man is after: If he takes you to meet his Mother and all his friends then I think he wants a true relationship.
        The more relationships with black women and white men in this world will make it easier for us to meet and date. So tell all your friends it’s ok to go out and meet that special someone. Tell your black girl friends to give white men a chance and white men stop wasting your life and ask that beautiful black lady for a date. Then tell all your friends.

      • Nita / Feb 2 2014 3:29 pm

        One of the pet peeves of interracial dating in the uncertainty of White men. They tend to ask if I ever dated a White guy or if I am interested in White guys. What do you care if I am into White guys? Just treat me like a lady and go for what you are interested in and don’t create a racial barrier between you and the woman you are interested in.

      • Paul / Feb 3 2014 1:05 am

        I don’t mean to be disrespectful, but I think Dean and Dan live in their mother’s basements…Nita is all over it. Whether a woman is white, black, yellow, or ??, just act the same. If you’re interested, you’re interested. Who cares what color she is? I’ve dated across the spectrum, and the words “do you date white guys” never crossed my lips…why, because I don’t care what their past on this issue is…if they’re shallow enough not to date you because of your color, their loss, your gain. If you’re so shallow as to only date someone because of their color, then you’re an ass…Jeez men, just be men…how hard is that? Same goes for you Tiannaskyy14. If you’re attracted to any man, then make sure he knows if you want him to ask you to do anything…we’re not in grade school anymore, time for all of us all to start acting like adults…

      • dean white / Feb 4 2014 3:17 am

        Well Paul that will depend on what part of this world you are standing on.
        I’m 55 years of age and have travel to 35 countries. “As far as my Mother’s basement” with those words you are being disrespectful. I come from a different generation than yourself I see. When I was a young man we left home after high school.
        I have dated women of all races and the color of the skin don’t make us different but our surroundings in which we live. I have had relationships with 4 black ladies in my life and they all have told me that most white men are different than black men. Most white men are much to serious and work longer hours, but at the same time I have been told that we are more respectful and less aggressive.
        I have a beautiful black lady in my life and we have been together now for 5 years now. My lady and myself don’t have any racial barrier between us, because when I see her I don’t see color I see the lady that I love and will spend the rest of my life with.

      • Nita / Feb 3 2014 1:16 am

        Paul I’m glad you don’t ask this question. The race issue will come up. I’m not saying don’t ever discuss it. But don’t lead with it as a conversation piece. Whenever a guy asks me this, it reeks of insecurity. I am offended when race is brought up so early. Guys have asked me this in the first meeting, which lets me know he has not really connected with Black women on a deeper level beyond seeing her as a Black woman. I am looking to connect on a human level.

  31. Paul / Feb 3 2014 2:05 am

    Rita, all I can tell you is I’m glad that I live in Hawaii…seems like the race issue is so much less of an issue here, with haole’s with hapas, and locals with mainlanders, all of it good…I look at it as a smorgasbord…I eat off of your plate, you eat off of mine, we’re both the better for expanding our palates…If we respect each other as people first, then we can be grateful for all the colors in the rainbow…:)

    • priscilla / Feb 19 2014 8:03 am

      hi, im a black in south africa. this is where its very rare to see interratial couples. i am single and i see good looking white men here. but they do nt approach me.
      not all woman are unfriendly.

      • Dean / Feb 26 2014 1:46 am

        This is so hard for me to understand:

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