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July 3, 2014 / admin

Who Did it For You? Time to Name Names

11018_viewI think we all can remember who the first guy or girl of a different race was that made us realize other race guys/girls were HOT and that we were attracted to people who may have a different skin color than you.

For me it was Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing. His swaying hips in those tight pants definitely made me sit up at a very young age and picture myself marrying a guy who looked and danced just like he did.

I confess, I’ve watched that movie more times than I can count and enjoy it every time. It might have had something to do with my very active imagination and the relative ease of which I could envision my head in the place of Jennifer Gray’s (Baby) in all of their scenes together.

There were many steaming hot moments in that film, but them practicing in the dance studio, where she can’t stop laughing as he runs his fingers along her side – and of course the scene where they do it for the first time (smokin’) are my all time favorites.

Now for some of you, your first interracial crush may not have been a celebrity, and that’s okay too. Feel free to name names a well. You never know – he or she may be googling themselves and come across your post. Boom! Instant rekindling – just don’t forget to invite me to the wedding 🙂


By the way, check out this unintentionally hilarious deleted scene from Dirty Dancing below. Whew, I don’t think I could have handled all of this right here as a child but all I can say is Jennifer Gray was one lucky lady!


June 24, 2014 / admin

Baby k’Tan Gate – Offensive because it’s true?

Um… Is there something wrong with this picture?


Social media has been lit up with chatter about the above advertisements from Baby k’Tan, a company that produces baby slings. The image being circulated portrays two packages from the same company (for different products) with very nuanced differences.

One package advertising Baby K’Tan’s regular baby carriers is of a seemingly caucasian couple (although baby K’tan later clarified that the couple featured is a caucasian mother and hispanic father), and the other package advertising the company’s organic line features a black mother with baby and a noticeably empty space where the father should be standing.

Cue the outrage, hang wringing, pearl clutching and mile long comment sections about how wronged black women and men are portrayed in the media. But just how off the mark is this advertisement?

The fact of the matter is 72.3% of black children are born to single mothers. Wait, you might say. Just because a couple isn’t married doesn’t mean that the father is not present in the home. By this measure, the situation is only slightly better, as 67% of all black children live in single-parent homes. (source:
Becoming irate at reality is like objecting to gravity when you fall. Whether you like it or not, whether it be ideal or not, gravity is one of the laws of physics – it’s the way the world works – and Black fathers are absent from their offspring’s lives / abandon the women they procreate with far more than other groups of men in the global village.

Could it be that the Black people crying racism are up in arms because they are fully aware of the prevalent baby mama culture that is the norm in the black community and are upset that their dirty laundry is being aired and reflected for all to see? Yes, it’s a shameful fact and being mad is not going to change a thing.

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February 27, 2014 / admin

Bethenny Show Seeking Couples in Interracial Relationships

Calling all couples in interracial relationships who want to be on television!
The Bethenny show is casting (I still wonder how that woman worked her way from the Apprentice to her very own talk show when Omarosa *the only other recognizable name from the show  is on like tv one or something? Correct me if I’m wrong, but doesn’t Omarosa have a ph.D or something to that effect?
Ok, I lied. I do know. Ladies, I give you the power of networking and schmoozing! Did I veer off subject again?
Ok, here’s the call from the Bethenny show’s website:
Are You in an Interracial Relationship?
Do you face judgment of your family and friends? Tell us your story.
February 25, 2014 / admin

It’s Sick to Celebrate Patton & Thicke’s Divorce

Oh, boy! Another celebrity marriage has come to an end… but this one was unlike any of the others. This one lasted for 8 years and began when both of the participants were 14 (Robin Thicke) and 16 (Paula Patton).

Instead of people being sad at another broken home involving a child, admitting they don’t KNOW WHAT happened and wishing the couple all the best, or keeping their mean spirited ‘I told you so’ speculative thoughts to themselves, it seems as though folks are reveling in the fact that this marriage has devolved.

Not only that, but the racist and bigots have gladly jumped at the chance to snatch on their Klu Klux Klan masks and bring race into the equation – despite Paula Patton being a mixed race individual herself.

The Black guys also made an appearance to try to convince good looking and successful women, presumably brown skinned like Paula, to stay in their lane and stick to their own race of men b/c interracial relationships never work out! (Despite interracial marriages between White Men and Black Women having the highest success rate)

Here’s an awesome contribution to the discussion about these two people’s lives: see Jimbuscrepes. (From Gawkr): note JimbusCrepes not only tries to tell ladies that men of their own race will ‘understand’ them better. Really? I can’t make out most of the sounds many Black males go around mumbling, much less try to understand the slang/ebonics they use when they try to ‘holla’. And don’t get me started on the (c)rap music!


He also makes sure to prescribe settling for the slightly older, and pudgy (black) guy… who probably looks a lot like JimbusCrepes because he’s less likely to stray.

Is it appropriate to mention the huge out of wedlock birth rates in the African American community? Also, I guess less men can get divorced if they never commit and get married in the first place like many Black men are averse to doing.

Anyway, I digress. Did nobody’s mother ever teach them ‘if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all’? Especially when it comes to a delicate subject like a dissolution of a marriage? Just uncouth.

Please, do me a favor and if you catch someone spouting off online about why they are happy for the separation, why Paula deserves this because she ‘flew the coop’ or any other such nonsense, and put them in their place!

Also, post the link in the comments section for other readers to go and pile on top of them for their bad manners.

P.S. – to the haters: “One monkey don’t stop no show!” This woman and man’s separation will not convince us to come on home. You need MORE people

February 24, 2014 / admin

I love this woman! First Promo for Swirlr is Here

I give you Christelyn Karazin’s, from and Jordan Harbinger’s new internet dating series, Swirlr. Can I just say it’s about time dating shows showed Black women and White men together who look and act like normal people.

For years we’ve complained about the lack of Black women on mainstream shows like The Bachelor. The only time we saw Black women and White men searching for love was on VH1 with New York and her cast of insane characters. Every now and then we’d get one Black girl thrown into the mix of a dating reality show but she was usually out of the picture or set up with Black guys.

I’m glad someone decided to do something about that, and I can’t think of anyone more deserving than Ms. Karazin.

The show seems to be exploring Black women and White men who have needlessly shut down their options by solely dating within their race in the past. Karazin coaches them to look beyond black and White (what they are normally used to) and see what happens.

Check out the trailer below and let me know what you think. Watch out Patti whatever her name is…



So, what do you think? Will you be watching?

February 20, 2014 / admin

Mythbusters – White Men Can’t Dance

Time to bust this myth –

Watch the video below of a groom dancing African music with his new bride…

(Awww, don’t you just love weddings!)

February 5, 2014 / admin

Real IR Hollywood Wedding – Denise Vasi & Anthony Mandler

Congrats are in order to beautiful Denise Vasi (of Single Ladie’s fame) and her director husband, Anthony Mandler.

The two tied the knot on October 14th, 2013 at a wine vineyard in Santa Ynez, California. The So, yes, I’m a little late… but you know what they say (better late than never)

The wedding included Jennifer Hudson, who was there to serenade the bride down the aisle. Since Denise has been living on her own since a teenager, she walked down the aisle by herself before her stepfather met her and walked her to her grandfather, who finally present her to Anthony.

Denise and Anthony met after she’d been cast to star in Lil’ Wayne’s “How To Love” video, which Anthony directed.  Although Cash Money scrapped the video and went in another direction, Denise says, “Obviously it was disappointing to have the video not come out, but it was such a blessing. I got something much better.”

Their first date was at an Italian restaurant that Anthony had completely rented out – talk about romatic!

The couple honeymooned in Africa (Tanzania, Mozambique and Mnemba island), where they did some scuba diving, took helicopter rides, rode on a safari and more .

Denise described the gorgeous Anthony as being her soulmate in an interview with  “He knows what I want, what I need and he just does it.  Those mornings when I wake up and he knows I have an audition, he has [already] gone out to get my favorite thing for breakfast. I don’t have to ask him. He just does it on his own.”

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