Funny! I think I may have said only 3 of these.
Have you said any of the following to a guy who has never dated a Black woman before? And for the guys out there, was your first experience dating a black girl anything like in the video? Sound off below!
Hi I was getting off an uptown A train (white guy). We made eye contact as I got off train about 7pm. You are a very attractive dark skinned black woman who caught me eye the second I saw you.
Know this has a snowball’s chance of working. What else can I try?
Hope you see this.
Fact #2: You’ll never have a boyfriend if only the wrong guys ask you out
Fact #3: You’ll never have a boyfriend if you can’t make it past date one when you finally do get asked out.
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You do manage to get one or two first dates but can never seem to progress to something meaningful…
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At the end of the summer, New York Theater will welcome Orlando Bloom in his Broadway debut as Romeo in David Leveaux’s upcoming production of Romeo and Juliet, opposite Condola Rashad as Juliet.
Romeo will be a biker in the modern take on the Shakespearean tragedy, which is believed to have been written between 1591 and 1595.
The new play about a pair of star-crossed lovers will have the original language, but will not be set in the 14th century. And five-time Tony-nominated director David Leaveaux chose not to be colorblind about the two warring families.
“Yes – the Capulets are black, and the Montagues are white. But that’s actually not the reason for the feud,” Rashad said. “It just so happens that the families are of different races, which takes it a step further for an interracial cast.”
There are some who say that these productions are using the old interracial trick solely to bump up ticket sales and controversy. However, others have pointed out that the actor playing Orlando Bloom would have been enough of a reason to convince theater goers to reach for their credit cards.
I do admit, the fact that Romeo and Juliet will be a couple that “looks like me” does give me a reason to pluck down the dollars, whereas this play wouldn’t really be on my radar otherwise. *Don’t judge me. I know I can’t be the only one* [Kanye shrug]
Previews for “Romeo and Juliet” start on Aug. 24. It opens on Sept. 19.
WILL YOU GO SEE IT?
The last line in the following note sent by a reader stood out to me because I’ve experienced something similar and this is not the first time I’ve heard this sentiment:
I have dated all types of men (though I’ve dated more White men than any other kind) and I’ve always felt a little guilty when dating black/other men because all the while I would find my head turning upon passing by a cute preppy white guy – I do tend to have a type.
It felt like I was giving my partner the short end of the stick, and I realized if I knew the guy I was dating felt that way I would not want him to stick around and be with me.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I totally thought the black/other men that I dated were cute and I was somewhat attracted to their personality/looks, otherwise I wouldn’t have dated them. But, I guess you could say that I was “spoiled” in that all of the previous white guys that I had dated possessed many characteristics that man of the black/other guys that I dated simply didn’t have. Perhaps it was just the way most white guys are raised – but I simply enjoyed my interactions with White men more…
And thus, despite dating the rainbow, I always found myself coming back to what I was most comfortable/happiest with: White men. Sue me?
I guess the reader didn’t really ask for advice, but I would say if you find yourself longing for White men or having a wandering eye because you’re more attracted to them than your current partner, you should do yourself and your hubby a favor and seriously consider if you should remain in your marriage.
Best of luck!
What say you?
Can you relate to my experience. Am I wrong/right in telling our reader she should follow her heart and let her hubby find someone who decidedly wants to be with him? Sound off below!
This week’s reader question comes from Mary who writes,
“Hello, I am really interested in an old co-worker of mine. We have a lot in common and have a great time together. There is definitely a physical attraction between us (he’s always complementing me, we’ve hooked up – nothing sexual) but suggestive comments have been made and welcomed. But we also stop ourselves from doing anything sexual because we don’t want to ruin our friendship and believe on people who are dating should be involved like that. My dilemma is I want more. I am just not sure how he will react to it. I am the last girl he’s hooked up with and that was a year ago. So it makes me feel better and that he is waiting for something. I am not sure if I am reading to much into this. My friends have mixed opinions about it. I am not sure what to do. I think more than anything I am worried about saying something and losing a great friend but also passing up the chance of there being something more. Also: Another friend of mine liked a different white guy. They were both fully attracted to each other (physically, emotionally, and mentally) but due to his parents (they don’t agree with dating-marrying black individuals, he would not date her. His parents would never respect their relationship or her and he didn’t want to put her through that. So I guess that worries me. Give me motivation and answer to put myself out there or move on. Also, if I do put myself out there – what is the best way to go about it.”
First things first – thanks for reading and writing!
Now, let’s get down to business…