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July 12, 2011 / admin

Midweek Missed Connections – Lessons Learned

Missed Connection postings provide ample opportunities to learn valuable lessons.

In the case below, the BW who has managed to capture our poster’s eye (and probably noticed) used what I believe to be a great opener. *See Post Below.


“Looked lost” in Marshall’s at Bergen Town Center Mall – Tue June 21st – m4w

From Craigslist

You: Tall, slim, beautiful black woman with a cute little hat, browsing the ladies’ fashions at Marshall’s. You asked if you could help me because I looked lost (I was actually stunned by your repeated glances my way, so yeah, I guess you could say I was “lost in space” 🙂
Me: 6′-7″ slim white guy, explaining that I was looking for my sister (a fact, btw).You were so sweet, with a winning smile. I was struck by your laid back, yet refined demeanor. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about our sweet, brief, innocent encounter, because there were defin itely instant sparks, in an amazing way. I’m sorry I didn’t follow you down the escalator to continue our conversation and at least pass you a business card.I truly hope you read this and respond. That would be amazing, and would answer my prayers (metaphorically speaking). I have never done this before, btw.


The question is what could have been said after her opener that would have led to some type of conversation/real connection (exchange of email, number, facebook, business cards, etc.) – if anything at all.

You may be able to relate to this scenario: A wg who seems interested but remains mum. Since it’s better to be proactive, it’s a good idea to know how to nudge a conversation in the way you want it to go…. i.e. Get a guy to ask you out/exchange contact info.

So ladies, if you were the woman in this scenario and you’ve noticed a cute guy giving you the eyes…  found some way to talk to him/initiate conversation…. what could you say/do next?

BTW, it’s best to think about these things beforehand so that if you are ever faced with a situation like this, you’ll know exactly what to say/do instead of relying on your ability to think fast or risk a missed connection.


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