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June 24, 2011 / admin

Move on Down the Road! And Into Your Prime Neighborhood

If you wanted to go fishing (and actually catch some fish) you wouldn’t go here, right?

Substitute going fishing with finding/dating a wm and the place that you wouldn’t want to go with “all black constructs” (see pic from an hbcu below).

Do you get my drift?

If not, plainly put: If you want to meet and date White men you have to place yourself in an environment that is congruent to that; one in which your odds will greatly be increased. When it comes to IR dating, all black constructs are like visiting barren land in hopes of quencing your thirst… not a good idea.

 Granted, you could try to meet someone at work or school and I encourage that (though maybe someone who works in a different department or different office who happens to be in the same building…I digress) but if you want to up your chances even more, you might want to look into relocating. No, not to a new country, but to a new, more diverse, neighborhood.

Here are 5 tips to moving on down the road into dating central regardless (or in spite) of your financial situation:

The most important part of this process is pinpointing areas in your city, town or state that are desirable to you. If you like single hipsters, you probably aren’t going to find them in Suburbia where families typically reside. If you like and want corporate/professional, young, single men, they probably won’t be living in the art district.  I would suggest driving through the different neighborhoods, maybe even going to a local cafe/restaurant to get an idea of the type of men are there. Read real estate reports about the neighborhoods! Heck, even the city reports/census should give you a good feel for the amount of single men, household income, etc. for the particular area.

Once you’ve done this, you will need to find a house/apartment to call home. If the rents are high, and they typically are higher in these areas than all black areas, you may need to be a bit creative. Here’s where the actual tips come in to play. 

1. Get Roommates if necessary – I would recommend first asking around (friends/family/co-workers) if they know someone who is looking to move. Check out and other website for people looking for roommates. You can also put up ads on school, cafe or supermarket message boards. Lastly, you can pinpoint the apartment you want to rent first and then go about securing roommates.

* An apartment for 4 will usually work out much cheaper per person than an apartment for 2

2. Sublet – Check out for short term leases.

3. Get a room – Yes, your space will be limited to one room… but one room in a great apartment, in a great neighborhood with great dating prospects is worth it!

4. Look for affordable Buildings (i.e. – rent stabilized or rent controlled) in the desired area.

5. Opt in for on campus housing – If you’re in school, instead of staying at home and commuting you might want to consider on campus housing.

Once you are settled in, make sure to put on your friendly face and get to know your neighbors. Say hello, introduce yourself! There’s really no easier way to introduce yourself to strangers than by saying you just moved into the neighborhood! Befriend White women AND White men (even if you are not inerested in the wm romantically! He could become your wing man or introduce you to someone you may be interested in)


If you have been able to successfully transition into a Prime (depending on your needs) neighborhood using a creative method feel free to post it below!



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  1. Ty / Jun 24 2011 4:15 pm

    Great article! Just a suggestion, but maybe becoming a live in nanny?

  2. mzdougla / Jun 26 2011 9:37 pm

    Exactly! All the reason why I live in diverse areas ONLY!! I’ve always been that person, that just loves being around different ethnicities. I love being exposed to different cultures (migrating from another country might have something to do with it) and love it when people are open-minded and are willing to get to know me and where I’m from 🙂
    I have friends from various ethnic backgrounds, and I intend to keep it that way. Right now I’m staying with my mother because of a job situation (looong story) and the neighbourhood is definitely not diverse. I would never look twice at this place if I were looking to rent an apartment. This is exactly what professional/educated women need to keep in mind, if they are looking for a quality non-blk man…Love the post!

  3. ddf / Jun 27 2011 12:16 pm

    I’m not currently able to move just to increase dating prospects but I do try to frequent places that have the sort of guys I’m attracted to. Well, I mainly go there because it’s the only part of my city with things that are interesting to me and the guys that hang out and live around the area are more of my type.

  4. deb / Jun 29 2011 3:41 am

    interesting i left some comments (or i think i did) and they are gone?

    • admin / Jun 29 2011 4:48 pm

      Sorry about the delay, your comments should now automatically appear as long as its under the same email address

      • ddf / Jun 30 2011 11:39 am

        oh ok thanks! i thought i had upset you with a comment or something which would suck because I really like your blog!

  5. business review / Jul 11 2011 3:42 am

    Getting to know your neighbors is more than just the friendly thing to do. This is usually in the elevator or the laundry room. Greet them and tell them your name. Extend your hand most people will respond to a handshake. You might have to jog their memory by telling them for example I live 2 doors down from you . Be sure to get their name. Keep the encounter short you don t want to give the impression that you re going to start asking for favors or knocking on their apartment door at all hours of the night..Offer a token of friendliness. If you like to bake make a batch of cookies and put a few in a bag and hang them on your neighbor s doorknob. If baking isn t your forte an apple will do. Attach a lighthearted note saying that it s from Marcia in 15G . Put one on every door on your floor. Next time you see them they will thank you and the ice has been broken..Lend a hand when it seems appropriate. If you see your neighbor returning from the supermarket with several bags offer assistance. Carry some of the bags to their apartment after all it s only down the hall. Hardly an inconvenience.

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