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January 28, 2011 / admin

10 Tips – How to Date Interacially in College


Dating in college should be easy enough… you’re surrounded by your peers, many of whom hold the same interests as you and are seeking the same things you are.  So, here are ten tips to help you take advantage of the large amount of young, fit and attractive people walking around on campus and increase your chances of dating interracially in college.

1. Start or join a group/club that you have a genuine interest in and actively participate by either assuming a role or simply supporting the group’s events. **Tip – You can also start or join a study group for each class you take. Each person you know is a potential link to someone! All it takes is an introduction from that person to get the ball rolling.

2. Attend mixed parties and events – and don’t forget to mingle. Look for a familiar face and strike up a conversation with that person. This is a great chance to say, “hey, I think we’re in the same art class” and build from there. If you continually attend the same events with the same people don’t expect to meet someone new!

3. Make friends with all kinds of people (not just Black/White). If you are a Black women interested in dating White men, make friends with white guys. Even if you are not interested in them romantically doing so will allow you to get comfortable with white men and their friends, who may be interested in you, will take notice. The same applies for White men – befriend Black women, even if you are not particularly interested in her romantically.  **Tip – The easiest way to make friends is to hang out in the common areas where students congregate – think the television room, game room, laundry room, whever a group is gathered listening to live music on the quad, cook food in the communal kitchen, etc.

4. Join a fraternity or sorority. Alternatively, if your school doesn’t have greek life, get involved by becoming a Resident Advisor (RA). This way you’ll get to interact with plenty of people. An added bonus is that you’ll usually get a single room to enjoy once you catch your beau.

5. When you meet an acquaintance, be sure to find and friend them on facebook. **Tip: You can collect e-mail addresses from group members which can be used to find a person. You can also join university related groups on facebook and join in on the conversation. When you meet or see that person in real life you will automatically have something in common to break the ice and talk about.

6. Get an on-campus job that will put you into contact with the type of guy/girl you want. Like jocks? Get a job at the cafe in the school gym. Like nerds? Get a job in the library. You get the gist.

7. Join a sports team – participate in intramurals.

8. Put a concerted effort into looking your best all the time. While other students tend to let themselves go (eating junk food all the time, wearing nothing but sweats to class) stand out by putting your best face forward. Take advantage of your school’s fitness facilities, dress up for class, make sure your hair and nails are done, smell good.

9. Don’t sit at the ‘all black’ table during lunch. Look for people eating alone and ask to join them or if you’re really brave approach a larger group of people to sit with them. **This is easier to do with 1 friend in tow, this way you’ll both be exposed to more people.

10. Do things by yourself. People are more prone to approach you when you are alone than when you are in an intimidating group of people. So, go ahead and visit the bookstore, study in the library, attend the party/event, go for a swim in the pool by your lonesome.You’ll be surprised to find how many more people you will meet.

Got any tips of your own to add? Share it in the comments section below!

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  1. Melissa Q / Jan 28 2011 9:57 pm

    Thank you. I could really use this advice.

    • Melissa Q / Jan 28 2011 9:58 pm

      Another tip: join other clubs. Music club, band, cooking club, international club, etc.

    • admin / Jan 29 2011 9:32 am

      Your welcome! I’m glad you found the post useful

  2. Carib / Jan 29 2011 1:11 am

    Very nice post…I’m so glad, that I’ve always been the girl that love being in a mixed crowd. I’ve always went to mixed club (still do), had friends from many backgrounds and I just love it…I don’t put myself in a box. I love this post…everyone needs to get out of their comfort zone and try something new 🙂

    • admin / Feb 5 2011 2:51 pm

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I totally agree with you about not putting yourself in a box. If only more BW could get this message they’d be better off!

  3. Shia / Jan 29 2011 2:33 am

    I love your website — plus the advice in this post is spot on!

    Can my blog be added to your directory? It’s http://acrushaday.blogspot.com/

  4. Shia / Jan 29 2011 2:38 am

    I love your blog — plus your post advice is really spot on. Especially 10. women miss out on so much by just staying in groups with other women.

    Can my site be added to your directory? It’s http://acrushaday.blogspot.com/

    • admin / Jan 30 2011 2:38 am

      Thanks! I’m glad you enjoy the site. Your blog has been added to the directory 🙂

  5. C. / Jan 31 2011 1:29 am

    Really nice advice, but what do I do if I’m always the friend and never”girlfriend” material?

    • admin / Feb 5 2011 2:50 pm

      I’m going to do a post on that! Stay tuned 🙂

  6. Carib / Feb 11 2011 10:49 pm

    I think you’re doing an absolutely wonderful job…I love your site 🙂

  7. Tay / Aug 29 2011 3:41 am

    Thanks for this post, I’ll be headed off to college in 3 days so I’ll take these tips with me!
    I have reblogged this post btw, check out my blog at http://www.tayexperience.wordpress.com 🙂

    • admin / Aug 30 2011 5:43 pm

      You’re welcome! Go forth and find your new beau 🙂

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