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November 12, 2010 / admin

Do you Give off a Swirl Signal?

Some Black women report having no trouble finding and dating White men. They claim to always get approached by, or asked out by such men.

On the other hand, other Black women can’t seem to get a White man to ask her out no matter what!

Why is this? Let’s put looks aside, as there are very attractive women who still report having little to no luck.

Is there some type of invisible SWIRL SIGNAL some Black women give off that White men pick up on?

White men, can you tell just by looking at a Black Woman/Girl that she will be open to interracial dating? Is it something about the way she wears her hair, the type of clothes she wears or the way she speaks?

Black women, who get hit on at every turn by White men (especially if White men hit on you more than Black men) are you consciously doing something that makes you more approachable? Why do you think White men have no problem risking getting shot down by you? Do you think they somehow KNOW you date white men?

Inquiring minds want to know – so please share in the comments section below.



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  1. Veronica / May 16 2013 2:00 am

    I know this is a super old post but I just had to chime in! I’m one of those black women that are regularly hit on by white men. I would say that 70% of the men that hit on me or ask me out are Caucasian. Is there a vibe we give off that makes us more approachable to them? Absolutely! I’ve combed through most of the post on this site and incase you haven’t noticed during those missed connections, one of the features that the women have that the men make mention of is their size/weight, noting that they’re petite or slim. White me are more attracted to women that have slim figures, not skinny, but certainly not overweight and out of shape. I’m speaking generally, because of course there are bwwm relationships where the woman isn’t exactly the model of healthy eating.

    Secondly, the way you dress. Dressing feminine is key. White men tend to a avoid ghetto black women and they can almost always spot one by how she dresses. Ghetto women are clueless when it comes to dressing feminine. Sorry to say it but it’s true. So, when they see a black woman who dresses feminine and classy they automatically assume that she isn’t a stereotype.

    How we interact with them. I’ve noticed on occasion that while a white guy may not be interested in me at first sight, they tend to be after a few minutes of talking with them. I always smile, laugh, listen intently to them while never judging, speak softly and properly(not Ebonics), and it helps to remain demure. Basically, every negative stereotype about black America women (obnoxious, loud, bossy) out the window. Although I’m black but not black America (African American) I’m guilty by association, therefore the stereotypes, living in America, can affect me if I stay at a distance, so taking to them is a must.

    And I’ll end with this to cut down on this post, expanding your horizon past black culture. You would be surprised at how pleasantly surprised they are when you can talk to them about anything from 90s alternative music to college football to renaissance history. More than anything, they love women who they can talk to about anything and everything without being judged, anyone they can be themselves around and they’ll break down the walls. This is all from my experience.


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