Sex on the First Date – White Men Only Want Black Women for Sex Dilemma
Ok, obviously we know all white men do not only want Black women for sex because there are plenty of White men who introduce their black girlfriends to their friends/family, have married Black women, have kids with them and more and more BWWM couples are making it official every day.
However, I know there are some black women out there who may or may not be new to interracial dating who give White men the side eye and wonder if the White guy showing some interest in them truly wants some type of relationship with her or just wants to get her in the sack. If she’s really into him she will probably be racking her brain trying to decide if and when she can be intimate with him. She might hold out forever and ever waiting for him to prove he is not only interested in her physically, but should that be the case?
Generally, we’ve all heard if you sleep with a guy on the first or second date, you will be regarded as “easy” and there will be no chance of a relationship. I don’t think it’s necessarily a good idea to sleep with someone you’ve just met, but I’m all for people doing what they want to do. And what if there is history there ( you’ve known each other for a few months), is it okay then? What if (GASP) you actually want to have sex with him? Shouldn’t you be able to?
Well, this article from manslations really made a lot of sense to me. So maybe it will do the same for you: Here’s an excerpt
Anyway, with all that in mind, what do guys think about first date sex? It’s probably not the thing that most women think it is. I have heard a bazillion times, “If you have sex on the first date, that’s all he’ll ever want from you.”
Please, for the love of all that is holy, listen to this:
THAT IS NOT TRUE.
Thank you for listening.
Now hold on, hold on!! I know, I know. I know you’ve had relationships where that’s what happened. Sure. But the first date sex isn’t WHY he didn’t want anything more from you. It’s the other way around. He NEVER wanted anything more from you. He bailed because he got what he wanted — sex on the first try, and no strings.
YOU DON’T HAVE THE POWER TO DO THAT
That’s the important thing to remember. You can’t make him stop liking you by having sex with him. And you most definitely will NEVER get him to START liking you by withholding sex. These two things aren’t related in that way.
However, you might REVEAL whether he likes you by holding off on sex, if you’re not sure. A player is looking for low-effort, high-reward. A guy who really likes you wants more than just the sex. He’ll put in the time. A player, if he senses you’re going to be difficult to get into bed, might move on.
VERDICT: DO WHATEVER YOU WANT, HE WON’T MIND
I have never heard a guy say something negative about a woman he liked because she slept with him on their first date. And I have also never heard a guy say that he was planning on just having sex with a woman, but when she refused to do him on the first date, he fell in love. It’s not like that.
If you feel that you want to have sex with him, DO it. If you feel you aren’t ready, DON’T do it. If you’re not sure you trust him, don’t know if he only wants to get you into bed, hold off. But whatever you do, don’t worry that a man will think less of you for having sex too soon.