The (130 page) book is finally here! As promised on our webinar a few weeks ago, everything you need to know on how to meet, attract and green light White men is available in the book, “How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know”. To all of those who pre-ordered the book at the discount price of $9.97, your book and bonuses are in your inbox (check it)
I still wanted to extend the early bird price for those of you new readers or readers of the blog who didn’t catch the webinar (I might be putting up a replay). SO you too can get the book for $9.97 when you CLICK HERE.
Read below for the introduction and if you have any questions about what’s in the book, feel free to ask me in the comments section below.
Back when I was in college, I answered a ‘student roommate wanted’ ad for an apartment in New York City. Little did I know, this was the day that would change my entire philosophy and outlook on men, and the course of my life forever.
So, new research by proposal expert, Robert Gosling, suggests a man’s race may be a contributing factor for whether or not a woman can expect to receive the proposal of her dreams. Can you guess who came out on the bottom and on the top?
Some people say there’s no difference between White and Black men, and they can’t understand why a Black woman might have a preference. It’s studies like this one that shows on a whole all men are simply not on the same level. I’ve found most of the White guys I’ve dated to be more romantic, thoughtful, chivalrous, giving, etc.
Obviously, not every single White guy is like this – but I really do think it’s the way they were raised compared to how a lot of Black men are raised. Not just that they were lacking teaching from their mother/father, but they just emulate what their uncles/brothers/friends and other people in the community do. And in the Black community, it’s considered foolish or being whipped to make sure your girlfriend gets treated like a Queen.
Anyway, read the article and let me know what you think in the comments section. For those of you married ladies, here’s your chance to dish about how awesome your marriage proposal was or confess to how disappointed you were.
Here’s the article:
New research by Robert Gosling, proposal expert and author of the book “How to Propose Without Screwing it Up: 50 Common Mistakes You Won’t Know You’re Making and How to Avoid them”, sheds interesting light on the recent leap in the number of women unhappy with their marriage proposal (25% to 33% from 2011 to 2013).
Barry from the UK wrote in with the following question (and it’s a good one):
” This is my dilemma, i met a really wonderful lady on the internet. She is my age and that’s a first for me, as im always seeming to date younger women. a few days after we met (online) she told me, “i just want to remind you that i am not white and that when we meet i don’t want you to be dissapointed” it was a strange thing to say because i had already “fallen” for her regardless of her race because of our mutual interests, views on life and her bubbly personality and intelligence. i asked her to never say that again and the question never came up again. However once i did feel that she was testing me again. She was on a Company holiday with colleagues and tweeted me “that she loves the Golf the Food the Water but that she was the only one with a tan” … ! i just gave a LoL comment, but it seems to me that being in a predominantly “white” Company, she is very aware of her colour. What can i do or say to make her feel at ease with me ? Oh by the way im meeting her on Friday and we are going to a very exclusive Club for dinner (her choice of venue). She seems to be very aware of Social standings and Society Prestige. Im not poor but im not materialistic at all … is it possible that she would change and become more down to earth, or am i wrong for even thinking of trying to change somebody?”
Barry, I’m so glad you asked this question!
It’s actually one of the things I go over in my new book in great detail, as many Black women sabotage themselves by doing exactly the same things your date is doing (although they claim to want to date White men)
From the letter, I hope it shows someone out there how off putting such behavior is. It screams insecurity and instantly gives a White man the red light when it comes to pursuing you seriously as a love interest. I mean, she thought he would be disappointed that she was ‘not White’. Way to broadcast that you think you’re inferior from the get go!
Ok, Barry, thank you for giving me the liberty to preach to the women here at your expense. I don’t delve too much into all that because all the information on what to avoid and how to do the exact opposite of what your date is doing is in the book. I wish there was some way you could gift it to her without her knowing, but that’s probably a little unrealistic. lol. Now, let me get to what YOU can do…
Funny! I think I may have said only 3 of these.
Have you said any of the following to a guy who has never dated a Black woman before? And for the guys out there, was your first experience dating a black girl anything like in the video? Sound off below!
Hi I was getting off an uptown A train (white guy). We made eye contact as I got off train about 7pm. You are a very attractive dark skinned black woman who caught me eye the second I saw you.
Know this has a snowball’s chance of working. What else can I try?
Hope you see this.
Fact #2: You’ll never have a boyfriend if only the wrong guys ask you out
Fact #3: You’ll never have a boyfriend if you can’t make it past date one when you finally do get asked out.
If you’re tired and frankly, appalled, at some of the men who try to talk to you, and wondering what you could possibly be projecting for certain guys to believe they have even the slightest chance…
Meanwhile, the men you are actually interested in can’t seem to muster up the courage to approach you and ask you out…
You do manage to get one or two first dates but can never seem to progress to something meaningful…
I’ve got good news for you!
After years of researching attraction and studying why some women are able to automatically pull the guys they actually want, get repeatedly asked out on tons of dates, and always manage to snag the best boyfriends, I’ve put together a foolproof system that will work for any woman wanting to do the same.
On Wednesday, October 10th at 8:30pm EST SHARP I’ll be hosting a FREE WEBINAR to tell you all about it.
In this Webinar you’ll learn:
* How to Attract the Men you Actually Want
* What you’re NOT doing right now to stop guys in their tracks from asking you out
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