27 year old “Glee” actress, Naya Rivera, is off the single congo. No, she hasn’t rebounded back into the arms of the rapper who stole from her and dogged her out on social media (thank god) – she’s now Mrs. Dorsey to be exact, now.
“Who, what, now?”, you might be thinking.
Three months after her engagement ended to rapper, Big Sean, Naya found herself walking down the aisle with fellow actor, Ryan Dorsey. The wedding took place last weekend in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico in front of a small group of friends and relatives.
While it may seem rushed, the couple has actually known each other for four years; however, according to reports, their romance didn’t “blossom” until shortly after Naya’s engagement to Big Sean ended last Spring. Perhaps he was finally able to step up to the plate after watching her almost drop into the death trap… err, I mean ride off into the sunset with the catch that is Big Sean.naya rivera marries ryan dorsey
Classic case of keeping it moving and the guys who are into you but not on your schedule learning to pick up the pace.
Arguable, I don’t know much about these characters, but Big Sean doesn’t scream faithful, quality guy to me. I could be wrong, but I doubt it. Also, can you say upgrade? Here’s a pic of Ryan Dorsey below.
THOUGHTS? WELL WISHES? SHADE? Leave ‘em below, I’ll break out the popcorn!
He/she has to be well educated, funny, tall, come from a good family, successful, and on and on and on.
Of course we all want the best mate we can find, but can such lists be preventing you from finding love? When does a list get to be too much, or when do you need to bump up your standards?
There are two schools of thought about putting such strict parameters on the people that you meet and potentially date.
LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS
The first is that if your list is as long as the bible, your expectations are way too high and you’re shooting yourself in the foot if you think anyone can live up to everything you want. Furthermore, most of us don’t even stack up to the gargantuan requirements we put on others. Are you making six figures, have the body of a greek goddess/god or the most patient, loving and kind person 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?
Chances are the answer is no. You might be working towards that, and it’s always good to be improving and growing, but we all fall short in some way. So, to expect to find someone perfect when you are not perfect yourself is just wishful thinking.
EXPAND YOUR LIST
On the other hand, should you lower your expectations and just settle for anyone who comes along?
Unfortunately, this seems to be the popular school of thought in the Black community and especially, religious circles.
You shouldn’t demand too much of your partner – take the person as they are and love them anyway. Stop trying to hold out for a white collar man (on par with your job) and settle for that perfectly fine blue collar guy with slight anger/control issues and a few baby mamas. At least you won’t be lonely, right?
The (130 page) book is finally here! As promised on our webinar a few weeks ago, everything you need to know on how to meet, attract and green light White men is available in the book, “How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know”. To all of those who pre-ordered the book at the discount price of $9.97, your book and bonuses are in your inbox (check it)
I still wanted to extend the early bird price for those of you new readers or readers of the blog who didn’t catch the webinar (I might be putting up a replay). SO you too can get the book for $9.97 when you CLICK HERE.
Read below for the introduction and if you have any questions about what’s in the book, feel free to ask me in the comments section below.
Back when I was in college, I answered a ‘student roommate wanted’ ad for an apartment in New York City. Little did I know, this was the day that would change my entire philosophy and outlook on men, and the course of my life forever.
Despite all the crazy things said about Halle Berry, I loves her and think she has played a huge role in fostering interracial Relationships.
She burst on to the scene and made many White men sit up and take notice that Black women can be super hot. You’d be hard pressed to find a White guy who wouldn’t admit to Halle being beautiful and date worthy. And who knows? Maybe that small admittance helped some guy open his eyes to the other gorgeous Black women surrounding him in his own hometown or become comfortable with sharing his attraction to Black girls with friends/family/etc.
In her career she has also pushed herself to not just be the stereotypical ‘black girl’ (BAPS) but show that we can convincingly play smart, beautiful, sexy (bond girl material), and normal women – as well as have crossover appeal.
I’m sure many Black girls/women noticed, just as I did, the large amounts of White guys who proclaimed Berry was beautiful and dateable and as a result thought to themselves it was completely viable to attract White men. Many BW can give her a run for her money when glommed up (just as Halle usually is).
Also, Halle has been able to nab some VERY HOT white men and normalize the BW-WM pairing on an international stage. Black girls have taken notice of that too. Although some criticize her of pandering to a large swath of her audience (Black men and NBABM women) by claiming she ‘tried’ with black men, the rest of us realize that she probably isn’t seriously apologetic about dating White men.
Perhaps her relationships (however they have or may end) gave some girl out there to confidence to flirt with the hot white guy in her local neighborhood.
She has constantly held a spot on People’s most beautiful list year after year, and is aging quite gracefully, and clips like the one below of her on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon show JUST HOW COOL and fun she is (and other black girls/women can be).
Kudos to Halle
I think we all can remember who the first guy or girl of a different race was that made us realize other race guys/girls were HOT and that we were attracted to people who may have a different skin color than you.
For me it was Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing. His swaying hips in those tight pants definitely made me sit up at a very young age and picture myself marrying a guy who looked and danced just like he did.
I confess, I’ve watched that movie more times than I can count and enjoy it every time. It might have had something to do with my very active imagination and the relative ease of which I could envision my head in the place of Jennifer Gray’s (Baby) in all of their scenes together.
There were many steaming hot moments in that film, but them practicing in the dance studio, where she can’t stop laughing as he runs his fingers along her side – and of course the scene where they do it for the first time (smokin’) are my all time favorites.
Now for some of you, your first interracial crush may not have been a celebrity, and that’s okay too. Feel free to name names a well. You never know – he or she may be googling themselves and come across your post. Boom! Instant rekindling – just don’t forget to invite me to the wedding :)
By the way, check out this unintentionally hilarious deleted scene from Dirty Dancing below. Whew, I don’t think I could have handled all of this right here as a child but all I can say is Jennifer Gray was one lucky lady!